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Three mistakes parents make when their child is struggling at school!

 

1. Checking kids grades constantly causes anxiety.

Some of the pressures kids are under at home can make things worse.

Kids have a ton of activities now-a-days and also with social media our children are feeling the pressure. No child wants to feel as though they are failing or struggling with something. Many children want to ask for help, but don’t know the right way to ask or feel they will be judged for doing so. Removing that pressure and setting a time each day or every other day (I find the best time is in the car on the way to activities) to discuss everything going on with them including grades is a wonderful way to open up the lines of communication and help them be heard and seek out help if needed.

Parents stressing out their kids

2. Don’t fix it!

Every child is going to struggle at some point, heck every adult does too.

When our child starts to struggle our nature is to immediately try and fix it for them. We as parents need to realize fixing the problem for them is doing more harm then good. We need to help them, but to do that we need to give them the tools they need to get through whatever they are struggling with. If your child is starting to not want to talk about school or doesn’t come home with papers they are proud of this may be a red flag. Naturally people want to hold in what they are ashamed of and not share it with anyone for fear of being judged. If you notice your child not as happy with school you may need to step in and offer some help. Remember every child is going to struggle, getting them the help they need is going to help their confidence and make sure they don’t fall to far behind.

 

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3. Don’t underestimate their ability to communicate their needs.

Get your child’s opinion and let them take ownership in their learning.

If you notice any of the above things or your child tells you they are struggling first thing to do it figure out what they are struggling with. Are they struggling socially? Are they struggling with school work? math? English? etc. Then talk with them about why they feel they are struggling and how long they have been feeling this way. Talking with your child and letting them have some ownership in their struggles and how to fix them will help tremendously. If they are struggling academically tutoring may be a great option. Carney’s offers pay as you go tutoring so if your child just needs a few sessions to get back up on their feet, we can help with that. If it something they are going to need weekly for a semester we can help with that too. The main thing is to get your child involved.

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You need to prepare for ACT and SAT now!
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You 100% need to prep for ACT and SAT right now!!

Here are 7 Reasons that you should take prep classes for the ACT and SAT exams!

 

1. Admission to your top choice school.

Many schools now will automatically admit students not only in the top 10%. Many schools like Texas A&M and Texas Tech offer admission with your GPA and ACT or SAT score. These schools require you be in the top 25% with a minimum score on the ACT or SAT. Make sure to research your schools rules to see what minimum score you will need for automatic admissions.

2. Boost your ACT and SAT Score.

The world we live in today is very competitive and you are taking the ACT or SAT to stand out from the other students. You want to put your best foot forward and show colleges what you are capable of. Having a higher test score mixed with a good GPA will guarantee you colleges you want as well as some financial freedom when it comes to paying for college.

ACT and SAT scores can be a good way to increase your chances of getting into a school of your choice if your grades slipped a little one year and knocked you down in the class rank. By taking some time to increase your score you could be moving yourself way up the list in terms of admissions.

3. Develop test-taking strategies.

Test-taking strategies can help you in all aspects of school, but most importantly with the ACT and SAT. Both of these tests have simple tricks that if known can help raise your score.  Some test-taking strategies seem simple and ones that everyone should know, but others are more difficult and are very specific to the ACT or SAT, knowing these ahead of time can greatly increase your chances of scoring higher.

4. Build your confidence and lower anxiety.

For many students taking test comes with tons of anxiety and stress especially one that has so much riding on it. Having a prep class can help student alleviate the stress involved with the test as they will see a sample test and learn all the strategies needed to feel successful.

Many students become overwhelmed by these tests because they are unfamiliar with them. By taking a prep class you become more familiar not only with the material on the test, but also the structure. Knowing what you are walking into helps a lot and can help increase students scores.

5. Could qualify you for a scholarship.

Who doesn’t want free money? Scholarships are the best way to go to college, have someone else pay for it. Some scholarships are athletic based, some are based on talents, but many are based on academics. Having a great ACT or SAT score can greatly improve your chances of getting funding for college from somewhere else other than your parents pocket book!

I found some great information on scholarships and how much certain schools offer at this site:

https://blog.prepscholar.com/guaranteed-scholarships-based-on-sat-act-scores

 Always make sure you start early looking for scholarships as some have early deadlines.

6. Effects approval for financial aid.

Higher scores can increase a students chances of receiving more financial aid. Financial aid officers see students as more desirable if they have higher test score and are willing to offer them more money.

7. Better job opportunities.

 Not every student that graduates from high school is going straight to college. Many students choose to go to a trade school or go right into working a full time job. For students that are going to a trade school or full time job employers are going to want to see your ACT or SAT score to see how well you did. A higher score could set you up with a better starting position or even a high salary.

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School is back in session and routine is the key to your sanity!

10 Tips on how to establish a routine ASAP!

Kids are going back to school! You are either crying in your coffee, or you are praising the big man upstairs…but either way you are probably like most people are NOT READY. Summertime often means schedules and routines are out the door. Bedtime and wake time are no more, dinner time is all over the place and chores never get done like they usually do. It’s a circus, right? Well hang on to your hat because once school starts back you need to be ready for routine. It’s a mental health precaution…trust me. So stick with me, as I give you 10 GREAT tips on how to get organized NOW and take on the school year like a NINJA instead of a headcase.

Tips for Routine when school is back in session

  1. Same bedtime every school night. Studies have shown that older kids need 9-11 hours of sleep each night and younger kids need 14-24 hours. If you are anything like me my kids are not getting the recommended hours of sleep, but we try. Setting the same scheduled bedtime each night really helps so we have a goal and can make sure we are working towards getting into bed by a certain time. Will your child fight you, YES, but ultimately we know it is what’s best for them and it gives us some time after they are in bed to complete the things we need to do before we go to bed as well.
  2. Have a designated homework spot. Ours is the kitchen table, yours could be in the office, in the backyard, wherever your child can focus and not be distracted by things around them. Picking out a spot before hand and using the same one every time they have homework takes the guess work out of where they will do their work and they know exactly where to go, how to get started and will have everything they need to finish their homework successfully.
  3. Set up a homework time. There are three times that are good for doing homework and which is best is different with each child. The best times are right after school, before dinner or after dinner. Everyone is different on what works for them. My daughter does best when she completes her homework right after she gets home so it doesn’t weigh on her for the rest of the night and she has a sense of freedom from it. That doesn’t work though on nights she has activities right after school so we have to change it up on those nights. Having your student know ahead of time when they will be completing their homework will help them be more successful. If one of the above times isn’t working try another, don’t be afraid to change it up.
  4. Plan out each week. Know when tests and quizzes are so you aren’t cramming last minute. In the digital age we live in we now have instant access to a lot of information including teachers websites. Many teachers put their upcoming calendars online so students know when their next assessment will be. Have your child check this on a weekly basis so they can write in their agenda when their next assessment will be. This way they can plan out and see the date approaching and make sure to study ahead of time and not cram everything in the night before.
  5. Use Sunday’s before bed to decompress and prepare for Monday. A good start on Monday makes for a good week. Sunday’s are family days for most and are a great time to get prepared for the school week ahead. Have your child use Sunday’s to look at the upcoming week see if there are assessments approaching or books that need to be read. Make sure they use Sunday to get to bed early so they can decompress from their weekend and have their mind prepare for the week ahead.
  6. Meal plan! Easier said then done! I use to be the worst at this and without a plan found myself ordering out for my family more times then not during the week. Taking a few minutes on Saturday or Sunday to look over some recipes and pick which ones you think your family will like will save you a ton of time during the week. Many people will take this an extra step and actually meal prep on Sunday. I admit I am not that good, but after finding the an app I like to store all my families favorite dinner recipes it has made it a lot easier during the week. Let yourself have a day for leftovers or eating out. I always plan a day or two when I know I will have a crap day and just need to pick my family up something fast and that is ok, but planning ahead for meals really saves my sanity in the evening.
  7. Pick outfits out the night before. So not one is fighting or rushing to find clothes in the morning. It could be you picking out the clothes or your child, but having that outfit laid out and ready the night before is a huge time saver in the morning. I personally have left this to my children to do and believe me they have come down with some interesting outfits, but I feel like I am winning because they are at least dressed and ready for the day. Starting the day by having someone searching for a item of clothing and coming down half dressed puts everyone in a bad mood. Give this task to your child and again save your sanity.
  8. Use the same spot everyday for backpacks and materials. This way everyone will always know where the school items are. Ideally this is located near the door in which you will leave out of in the morning. This way your kids are less likely to forget something in the morning that has you running up to the school to bring it to them.
  9. Pack bags the night before. Have everything ready to go and in their bag. I don’t know how many times my kids have left things (books, homework) on the counter and it never made it to school. Checking their bags and making sure when homework is done it goes right into the backpack. The last thing any mom or dad needs is a frantic phone call from school that your child left something very important at home.
  10. Have a planner. I am a huge paper planner girl myself, but many are moving to the digital planners. Make sure you write things down, add an alarm for things to make sure you stay on course.

So there you have it people. Some good old fashioned CONCRETE ideas to get your home in order so that life will hand you lemonade and not lemons as the kids go back to school. Did you feel like some of these ideas were specifically for you? Did you feel like I wrote this blog TOO YOU? Are you wondering if I can see you right now and have been watching you on a spy cam? I’m kidding of course, but seriously…what changes are you going to make TODAY to get your butt in gear? Comment below!!